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Texas / New Mexico workers workshop May 2023

To our Friends in the Texas/New Mexico Fields, 

As communicated previously, the Texas/New Mexico staff came together on May 11-13, 2023 for the specific purpose to raise our awareness of SA/CSA and the danger it presents, to equip ourselves with appropriate practices that prevent and/or address problems when they arise, and, above all, to reinforce a professional standard of behavior that reflects the testimony of our Lord and Savior. The workshop was conducted by several of our friends and each presented on a topic within the scope of their professional expertise. Even though we are not a formal organization their expertise is applicable to our fellowship.  The topics covered were:

  • Sexual Abuse and Child Sexual Abuse (SA/CSA)
    • Laws and regulations requiring reporting of SA/CSA
    • Agencies authorized and mandated to investigate reports of SA/CSA
    • Psychological and physiological responses to, and impacts from, SA/CSA
    • Recognizing Red Flags Behaviors associated with sexual predators
    • Education regarding the signs of victims of abuse and trauma
    • Awareness of National and State resources available for education, reporting, and treatment
  • Professionalism: Boundaries and Standards of Conduct
    • Types of boundaries including: physical, personal, emotional, sexual, time, and monetary
    • Considerations for managing conflicts and building stronger communications within organizations
    • Consideration of dynamics of power and communication including: abuse of power, how to respond/report, and best practices for preventing and/or mitigating impacts within organizations
    • Consideration of cultural differences/boundaries including social, gender, societal, geographical and generational
  • Technology: Smartphones/Social Media – Balance and Boundaries
    • Productivity with technology
    • Becoming aware of the “distraction to destruction” threat of technology
  • Leadership Versus Management: Understanding the Difference

The workshop process provided valuable information that has, and will continue to, provide great benefit to us. The information presented and the related discussions in all the topic areas will prove extremely beneficial in assisting us as we strive to serve.  The workshop resulted in better informed and educated participants on many topics, but especially those related to CSA/SA awareness, prevention, and response. The workers agreed that the outcome of the workshop was not only educational but also allowed for identification of best practices for the ministry. Our discussions also resulted in the intentional empowerment of all workers, young and old, male and female, to have open lines of communication and self-advocacy.  We all agreed that there was clear evidence of the presence and leading of the Spirit throughout our workshop.

As a result of the workshop, the plan of the TX/NM Staff is to implement the following actions:

  1. Develop and share a policy on identification and response to CSA/SA – in review
  2. Develop and share procedures for identification of Red Flag Behaviors and how they are reported to a 3rd party professional organization for investigation – in development
  3. Finalize the agreed upon internal guidelines for conduct for TX/NM Staff

We acknowledge that some of these goals will take time to complete. We are dedicated to timely establishment of guidelines/policies for effective implementation of best practices in these areas. To honor our purpose, we acknowledge that this process is an ongoing effort which must allow for continuous updating and improvement. 

We are including some SA/CSA resources for your information. We encourage you to review the information we have included. The raising of awareness enables the safest environment possible. When we know better, we can do better.

The workshop was a highly informative and deeply emotional process. Each day taxed our mental and emotional limits. We understand that a three-day seminar will not allow us to resolve all the issues facing us, but we feel assured that we are pointed in the right direction. We have already seen, even in these three days, that all workers felt the freedom to engage in open dialogue. A few of the thoughts that were shared during our days together: 

  • “This is something I wish we could have done years ago.”
  • “I really wish that we would have had this when I started in the work.”
  • “I am glad to see the transition here into everyone being able to express themselves.”
  • “It is clear that God is refining his ministry.”
  • “This has been the icing on the cake of all my days in the ministry.”

After our days together, we are comforted and assured again by what Paul wrote to Timothy, Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his (II Tim. 2:19). 

Sincerely,

The Texas/New Mexico Staff

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Thoughts from the ministry leadership

WINGS Note: These comments were circulated in a newsletter to WA N ID AK friends.

WINGS notes some important comments:

  • The difficulties we are facing are more serious and far-reaching than I could have ever imagined.
  • One important resource has been the friends who have engaged us in point-blank, constructive dialogue.
  • All of us want change now.

A few weeks ago. I was in a remote village in Asia when I received the first email regarding allegations against Mark. Immediately I was torn. Do I stay or do I volunteer to return? When I prayed about it, the answer was very clear: I needed to offer to return, at least temporarily. Since that time, Wayne, Brian and I have been working as a team. A new overseer for WA, N ID & AK hasn’t been chosen yet.

Since coming home, most of my time has been spent in conversations where workers and friends have been pouring out their hearts. The difficulties we are facing are more serious and far-reaching than I could have ever imagined. I’m simultaneously trying to understand the problem and envision a solution. One important resource has been the friends who have engaged us in point-blank, constructive dialogue. Some solutions are especially elusive. For instance, what is the best way for us to report a concern if we witness inappropriate behavior? Of course, if we are aware of child abuse, we immediately call a hotline or police, but what about other things? We are spending a lot of time and thought on this matter.

Usually when we have a crisis, it only involves a few people — maybe a person, a family, a church, or a field. This crisis involves all of us. Everyone needs help at the same time. Many people are envisioning a different solution at the same time. All of us want change now. That’s one thing that makes our present distress so overwhelming.

One of the workers recently asked the friends in her field, “What do you need from us?” One of the replies was, “We need to see the fruit of the Spirit.” I don’t have the answers for some things, I don’t have the strength for some things, I don’t have the ability’ for some things, but I can have the fruit of the Spirit in every situation. The fruit of the Spirit is a benefit to everyone at the same time, both to us and to everyone around us. “Love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faithfulness, meekness, temperance’ (Gal 5:22-23).

Thanks for welcoming me home and holding me accountable. I pray desperately that I will be true to the responsibility I am given in the challenges and opportunities that are ahead of us. – Darryl Doland

Woodstock convention – update May 20, 2023

May 20, 2023

From: Bob and Stacy Bainbridge

Bob and I want to draw attention again to the letter that Darryl Doland shared in April and the letter that was shared to the friends in Atlantic Canada yesterday. We asked that the workers send out a letter to all the friends here in Atlantic Canada to stop the false rumours that they were spreading against Morgan. We asked them to clarify that the accusations brought forward by Morgan and others were validated. The letter was vague and confusing and left a lot of room for interpretation

We would like to highlight some parts of the letter in particular.

“….inappropriate and disrespectful interpersonal behaviour”

What was happening was psychological abuse, sexual misconduct, and hateful malicious behaviour. “Inappropriate” is dearly a euphemism to downplay what was actually happening. Does any parent want their child to offer for a ministry Where they Could be forced to share a room or a bed with someone who is aroused by them? Does any parent think it’s ok to have their son or daughter browbeaten to the point of considering suicide? Does any parent want their child to join a ministry where they visit friend’s homes and are sexually assaulted or leered at by “trusted elders”? It is no surprise that this behaviour exists. It is appalling that it is not dealt with properly,

“The changes made regarding these workers were made with the intention to address this behaviour and to stop it going forward.”

These workers were simply moved around. The removal of these workers only occurred because it became obvious that Morgan was right about them. So much hurt and confusion could have been avoided if they had simply did what she asked back in 2020.

She simply asked that they take a break from the work and get some psychiatric help.

Here is the full letter from the workers

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Dear all,

We would like to write to you today to be open and clear about inappropriate and disrespectful interpersonal behaviour that has existed and subsequently been reported in our ministry. Recently there were changes made on this staff because of behaviour that was considered inappropriate, especially for responsible workers in a field towards their younger companions. The changes made regarding these workers were made with the intention to address this behaviour and to stop it going forward There was no intention to cast any blame or doubt on the victims of this behaviour. We have moved after thorough deliberation on these issues, wanting to gather as much balanced information as possible. In seeking the guidance of God and wanting to move prayerfully and carefully, we believe that appropriate action has been taken in each case and that all involved will be wiser and kinder going into the future.

We feel that there needs to be an extra amount of compassion and understanding for those who are feeling vulnerable, and we know that as circumstances change, this could include any one of us at critical times in our life. We all need to learn to communicate with each other and listen to each other in a way that makes us free to voice our concerns and needs. This is an atmosphere that we would like to nurture and encourage in our fellowship and especially in the ministry.

God’s ministry on the earth is made up of human beings, with a human nature prone to failure. However, this is a very serious calling and, by the grace of God given to us, we should be held accountable to a high standard of love, meekness and morality. Just as a faithful adherence to this example set by Jesus has the potential to help and encourage; anything less than this heavenly standard has the potential to cause hurt and discouragement in others. In spite of sometimes being greatly disappointed in individuals in this ministry; we still believe in our calling in this ministry and our greatest ambition is to be servants, with a faithfulness to this calling.

We know that our greatest responsibility is to keep our own life and spirit right before God, but we do feel the weight of the responsibility when making decisions about things that involve so many of you. We fear that we will sometimes fail to make the best decision, and looking back we acknowledge that sometimes this has been the case. We feel sorry for our failure in this way. We are certainly in need of your prayers, and appreciative of your mercy and understanding. Most of all, we are thankful that God is above all and sees all. If we Seek His Spirit and heed it, He will lead us in the way of truth and righteousness.

With brotherly greetings.

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Remember, the point of this letter is to clarify that the acts of abuse, harassment and assault were true as per Morgan’s allegations and that they were mishandled, dismissed, and the victims were attacked, slandered, and shamed.

As far as Woodstock convention; The workers asked for a meeting with us to tell us that Woodstock Convention would be cancelled because Bob had said that there was corruption in the oversight. We were repeatedly told that they had prayed about it and this was the conclusion:

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Dear staff.

The last while we have been thinking about the Convention at Woodstock. We have prayed about it, and discussed it together. We feel like it would be better this year not to have the convention there. Hopefully it will be possible to have it there again next year. We have spoken to — and —  and asked if we could have a 2nd Napan, from June 30-July 2. They are agreeable to that plan. It will follow the same format as 1st Napan, three days with two meetings per day. Could you please let everyone in your field know about this.

Your brothers, Dale, Ray, and Jonathan.

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Following this email, we received another saying from the workers, saying they are reconsidering. At this time Bob was asked how he felt about having a convention?
Bob’s reply to that was, “This convention is not ours it belongs to the friends, what do they want? Bob stated that his vote was for a full convention but it was ultimately up to the friends who have put a lot of work and money into the grounds.

So now we go to the latest email regarding convention.

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Dear friends

We plan to have a three day convention at Woodstock
Two meetings a day, no evening meetings
We won’t have sleeping arrangements and won’t have meals arrangements
So I plan to go next week for a few days
The 19th of June a few of us will go to Woodstock to prepare, we’ll have a couple of days to prepare the meeting shed, the washrooms, the mini home and cabins
There will be lots of room and services for trailers as before.

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No explanation to us on why it is not a full convention. Still a warning, we’re not out of the woods yet?

As far as the workers that were the perpetrators towards Morgan: One is at her sister’s home. No official word that she is “out of the work” but she was still exhibiting grooming behaviours at gatherings toward young girls. Two of our true sister workers have caught her exhibiting this behaviour and the true friends in the area have asked that she not attend their meetings as they have young children.

The other sister that was moved to Ontario has been removed from the work just in the last week or two, I believe because of a professional recommendation.

The overseer that was moved to AB is no longer an overseer but is still in the work. We wish the AB brothers would reach out to get the information because the brothers in AB probably haven’t been told the extent of damage that he has done or even what it means to his victims for him to still be in the work. Step aside, get the help you need, and then see if you are fit for the work. It feels like there is no thought for the victims and how much that would go towards helping people heal.

– Bob and Stacy Bainbridge

John Vandenberg clarification

Many of you are aware John Vandenberg (California worker) was removed from the work and meetings.  The reason John was removed was due to allegations of child sex abuse against a young girl.  We have received many calls and private messages regarding the allegations against John.  As of late, we have been told by multiple people that it is breaking up families and causing division in The Truth.  By not being transparent, this is what can happen when facts are not shared openly and honestly.

Rob Newman stated in his letter to the friends on April 25, 2023, “Recently we have received several credible allegations of unacceptable sexual behavior, including a complaint of inappropriate touching of a minor, which has been reported to the authorities.”  This statement should have eliminated any questions as to why he was removed; however, for some reason there still seems to be confusion regarding John’s allegations.

To continue our efforts in honesty and transparency, we are sharing what we’ve learned to be true and what Sheri discovered prior to the Dean Bruer case becoming public. Hopefully this will clear up any confusion.

Back in January of 2023, Sheri Autrey was working on her case and was informed there had been child sex assault allegations against John.  The allegations involved sex assault against a 14 year-old girl in Mexico in the early 2000’s.  This information was given by a very credible source who was close to the situation at the time.  Since January 2023, it has been brought to our attention that at least ten workers knew of this particular crime and participated in the cover up.  Dale Shultz was instrumental in preventing the reporting of John Vandenberg’s crimes to law enforcement.

Sheri also learned that many years ago, one of the friends saw pictures of John with young children. This caused enough alarm that the friend personally mailed a letter to John to address her concerns after seeing the body language displayed just in pictures. We too have seen pictures of John with many children when he was in the Philippines this year for Convention. In light of the allegations against him, these photos are equally troubling.

We were recently informed that some of the friends reported John to CPS and Rob Newman is aware of that reporting as he stated in his letter.

For 17 years, multiple workers have known that John Vandenberg committed sex crimes against a child. They did not report it.  They did not notify you.  Therefore, countless children were offered as living sacrifices.

Sincerely, 

Sheri VanDermyden Autrey, Cynthia Liles, and Lauren Rohs

Advocates for The Truth

WINGS Note:
See original notification Letter by Rob Newman, Overseer of California Re: Removal of John VanDenBerg from the work – April 2023

Ronda Stidolph leaves the work

WINGS Note:

Ronda was in South America for quite a few years, before returning to USA.

This anouncement doesn’t mention any reasons. WINGS believes that the reasons are likely to become public and also believes that they do not relate to CSA.

Dear friends,

I have voluntarily stepped aside from the Work.

Someone said in a workers’ mtg a long time ago, that our goal shouldn’t be to stay in the Work until we die but to become like Jesus. That’s a true goal for all of us! Though my position in the Body changes, my connection with the Head, Christ Jesus, and also my salvation, remains unchanged and grows richer with time. I asked someone who’d stepped aside from the Work once, “Do you feel like you have more fruit or less fruit?”. His response was, “I have different fruit”. That will now be a part of my journey too.

Your sister,

Ronda Stidolph

Ron Hanson removed from meetings in Calgary, Alberta

Ron Hanson was a somewhat senior worker in Saskatchewan until he was removed from the work over an allegation of CSA. He moved to Calgary AB, married, and has had a Sunday am meeting in his home until recently.

He has now been asked to not come to meetings since a new allegation was reported to Calgary Police.

Robert Corfield removed from work

Ronan, MT

May 17, 2023

Dear Montana & Wyoming Friends & Workers

As difficult as this is, I must write this letter to you all with the following information that I have recently received.

I was informed that our brother, Robert Corfield, sexually abused minor boys while in the work in Canada prior to coming to Montana. Allegations were brought forward in 1990’s before he was sent to Montana and Robert has admitted the abuse.

After Robert arrived in Montana, he underwent counselling and completed a therapy program for his pedophilia.

It is possible there may be additional victims. If you have been a victim, please reach out to law enforcement in your local jurisdiction and / or someone you trust as soon as possible.

Robert has been removed from the work and meetings.

Respectfully yours

Scott R.

WINGS Note:

Here is a brief summary of the areas Robert Corfield labored in:

1960s – Oregon

1970s – Oregon, Montana, Idaho, Saskatchewan

1980s – Saskatchewan

1990s – Saskatchewan

2000s – Montana

2010s – Montana

2020s – Wyoming, Montana

He also spent time in India and South Africa.

Robert was a pallbearer at the funeral of Dean Bruer.

Removal from meeting attendance

5-6-2023

A May 2023 letter from the Minneapolis, Minnesota sister workers Ronda Stidolph and Lucille Anderson re Steve Rohs:

This is to clear up any confusion about Steve Rohs participation in meetings.

We apologize for any worry and fear caused by his case and our handling of it. Steve has admitted to an abuse incident that happened 40 years ago. And in mid April, another allegation was made from outside the state of Minnesota. The case was being investigated in other states. Both cases involving Steve have been reported outside of Minnesota.

The first week of April, Steve was asked to not attend any Meetings. No Sunday am Meetings, no Wednesday night Meetings, no Gospel Meeting, no Special Meetings or Conventions. It is certain that more education and discussion about abuse issues will be forthcoming.

We have been glad for some suggestions from some professionals among our friends regarding educational opportunities online, and we’ll be sharing that. We also consider the possibility of in person educational programs when classes can be scheduled. The Minnesota/Iowa Workers have all been keeping current with the Ministry Safe program for the last 15 years. Most have recently renewed their certification. We encourage everyone to look at that site and take the training and resulting exams. The website can be found at ministrysafe.com

It might help to put us all on the same page regarding child sexual abuse

Attendance at meetings after release from prison

5-16-2023

Our dear friends,

Some things are uncomfortable, but that does not mean they shouldn’t be talked about. Sometimes we avoid discussing things that we need to talk about because we’re worried it could be viewed as complaining, judgement, etc. Please, if there’s anything you would like to discuss with us, concerns you feel we should address or a need for more disclosure or information re: specific situations please be in touch! The Holy Spirit of God helps us with the right motives in all areas of our life.. including WHY we discuss certain things.

We know that it is important to take time to pray and be humble with our Father when the Holy Spirit is motivating us to address something. When the Holy Spirit is leading us to discuss something with others.. we need to obey it and can trust our obedience was necessary, regardless of the reactions.

We are sharing that someone in this area was recently released from prison where they served time due to a conviction related to viewing child pornography. Legally he is free to attend our public or private meetings, however Michael H. & Dennis M. have asked him not to attend any meetings for the time being. They will revisit this decision after conventions in Alberta.

We have some letters that disclose great sorrows that have recently been exposed. Many of you we’ve already shared them with. There were quite a few of you whom expressed, when we discussed it, that you didn’t want to read the letters. I remember most, but am afraid I might not remember exactly which of you didn’t want any of them. So I’ll attach the letter from Michael Hassett on a separate email and you can just delete it without reading if that’s what you’d decided. I’ve appreciated advice from someone, which was to encourage you to:

pray before reading them.

We have letters from other areas in North America as well, let us know if you want us to send them to you.

With our care,

-Mildred, Deanna & Tamara.

Time for change

WINGS is conscious of the enormous disruption occurring within the fellowship as light is shined on the serious issues of Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) cases that have occurred and been mismanaged in the past.

Many are asking “what can we do?”

For more than a decade, WINGS has been advocating for implementation of changes to prevent harm to children. Pockets of improvement have occurred. However, there are still many changes to be implemented.  

Historic attitudes and practices have allowed children to be harmed and further harm to survivors who were not believed or supported. Openness and transparency, victims being believed, and support of survivors on their healing journey is critical.

Although fellowship members may not consider they are part of an organisation, people act within the group with a degree of organisation and levels of responsibility. The benefits of being an international group where people freely move between areas, connect with others with the same beliefs and instinctively trust creates risk. Work already done for other organisations can easily be applied across the fellowship to protect children.

This statement is focused on child safety for young people in the fellowship.

Action must be taken now to protect children within the fellowship. We call upon all within the fellowship to advocate in your area for change.

WINGS calls for the following steps to be taken to keep children safe:

  • Groups must be set up to develop and govern child safety to ensure that there is consistent good practice across the worldwide fellowship.
  • Involve workers (including sister workers), elders, friends, young people and professionals. Heed external advice. Wisdom and knowledge doesn’t reside solely in overseers.
  • Policies and processes for child safety must be documented, shared with all members and regularly reviewed.
  • Codes of conduct for workers must be in place, attested to and monitored for compliance.
  • Training and education must occur for workers and elders, with compliance monitored and recorded regularly.
  • Complaint management processes must be transparent and adhered to.
  • Families and all attendees must be openly informed and regularly communicated with and involved in decisions impacting on children.
  • Ensure that all regions globally implement these new practices.
  • Voluntarily examine history and be open about past CSA cases that were not disclosed or were handled inadequately e.g. workers who quietly left and married; or were just shifted to another area; victims who were shame silenced.
  • Learn from one another globally and share information openly.
  • Recognise that this is a new normal that must continue forever.
  • Acknowledge that adult abuse (physical, sexual, emotional) is different to CSA but is also unacceptable.

Simply ask your overseer:

  • What is our policy to keep children safe?
  • Can I see the policy and workers code of conduct?
  • Have all workers had training and police checks and is it being kept up to date?
  • How do you manage allegations and complaints about abuse?
  • Are there current attendees in my meeting with CSA allegations?

Contact wingsfortruth@googlegroups.com if you require support or access to further information.

The below information may be useful for those wanting to understand what others do to address these matters in volunteer groups across the world.

Keeping Children Safe is an international group that is focused on child safeguarding. Its International Child Safeguarding Standards (ICS Standards) have general principles that are relevant to the friends and workers fellowship:

  • All children have equal rights to protection from harm
  • Everybody has a responsibility to support the protection of children
  • Organisations have a duty of care to children with whom they work, are in contact with, or who are affected by their work and operations
  • All actions on child safeguarding are taken in the best interests of the child, which are paramount.

They call for 4 key actions:

  1. Policy (written document specific to the group) that describes how it is committed to preventing and responding appropriately to harm to children, i.e. a documented approach to keeping children safe.
  2. People – clear responsibilities and expectations are placed on people (i.e. workers code of conduct).  Supports them to understand and act in line with these.
  3. Procedures are in place to keep children safe.
  4. Accountability – Measures in place are monitored and enforced.

See https://www.keepingchildrensafe.global/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/KCS-CS-Standards-ENG-200218.pdf

Another useful resource is https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/safety-planning-within-faith-based-communities