Subject: Our Journey on the Guidelines Team
Dear WANIDAK Staff,
We hope this email finds you all keeping well. As we reflect on our journey with the guidelines team, we recognize the shared experiences we’ve had together. This journey as we worked to create a safer environment for our fellowship has been filled with both joy and heartache.
When we were approached to join the guidelines team, we felt a profound sense of joy and responsibility. The mission to protect our children and vulnerable members resonated deeply with us, and we saw the great privilege in using our God-given talents to create professional guidelines to serve this purpose. Our aim was to reflect the same loving compassion that Jesus showed during his time on earth. While Jesus’ name was never explicitly mentioned in the guidelines, we strongly feel the guidelines we developed mirrored His heart for the children and the vulnerable among us.
The advantages of the guidelines we developed were clear: they aimed to foster a secure environment where all could feel safe, respected, and cared for by each and every one of us. We worked hard to create guidelines that truly embodied the spirit of our fellowship, making trust and safety paramount, while also ensuring fair and consistent treatment that provided hope for all victim survivors and offenders alike. Ultimately, we felt we upheld professional and best practice standards and simultaneously offered the pathway to restoration and peace. We were able to acknowledge the past and current hurt, recognize the responsibility we all have towards victim survivors, and show that we understood the need for accountability by those who have offended so gravely.
However, as we made progress in our journey, we encountered significant resistance from some in the ministry for a variety of reasons. We heard concerns that our Guidelines did not allow for discretion in decision-making, discounting what some perceived as repentance on the part of offenders, being too harsh towards perpetrators, and even that the scope of the problem seemed exaggerated and would be sufficiently addressed through the education already received. Overall, the ministry expressed concerns that the guidelines felt restrictive and corporate, that they were brittle, that needy sinners called perpetrators will be cut off from the help that they need, that they were too tight and demanding. and that they hindered the preaching of the gospel. There was resistance to our incorporation of various resources for victim survivors due to the groups involved in these resources. There were complaints that the guidelines were too lengthy, too detailed, or included strong language.
After our meeting in Walla Walla, we on the team felt like we had taken a step forward and were opening the door to allow for collaboration to address the concerns that did not interfere with the professional best practices conclusions we were asked to create. We did incorporate the changes that were applicable, clarifying, and appropriate. But as weeks progressed, there was a sense of discouragement as we continued to receive the same comments and questions that we had already addressed, and there seemed very little flexibility or openness to consider our perspective from the ministry. It’s likely that some of you felt the same from us. We received both public and private feedback that expressed offense on the part of some of the staff due to perceptions that we were attempting to restrict or control your role by providing expectations for conduct, as well as offense that the ministry seemed to be ‘targeted’ and was being unfairly spoken of with regard to the rate of offenders.
We also received resistance related to our minimum requirement of a yearly, one-hour training by the ministry and elders, which was disheartening. To us, this communicated a belief that the education you had received thus far was sufficient, and that the hurt of victim survivors and a need to increase safety was less important than having to give one hour a year to refresh your memory on awareness of grooming and patterns of abuse. Relatedly, it felt as though all we were hearing were cries again and again on behalf of the offenders, about the impact on their lives, and about possible false allegations; and yet, we received very little communication about the care and love for the victim survivors. Given our empathy, understanding and experience with the deep trauma of abuse, as well as some of our own identities as survivors, this felt like another blow and a disheartening step away from the love of Jesus.
Some in the ministry did not endorse the work of the professionals partly because those of us writing them had not been selected by the ministry itself. One of the most hurtful aspects of this process was receiving criticism from the staff on our professional qualifications, our motives, and most importantly, our spirits. Some of this criticism and negativity was voiced directly to us, but even more hurtful, was learning these views about us were being voiced to others. There were those among you spreading misinformation about our character, our spirit, our scriptural knowledge and understanding, our intentions, and the contents of the guidelines. It is undeniable that many of us in the fellowship experienced a loss of trust in the ministry 15 months ago, but the recent perceptions and statements we learned of that were made about us or made about our current crisis at large felt like another devastating blow and a further fracturing of trust.
In the past weeks, new conversations arose. We heard concerns about investigations because GRACE captured some of the other underlying problems in our fellowship apart from CSA and SA. There were also conversations about the guidelines being re-traumatizing to those who had moved on through the grace of God; though again, there was no mention of those victims who are still hurting and still crying out. We began to see the ministry turn back to the way these terrible problems and hurts were mishandled in the past: with so-called Spirit-led discretion by the ministry. While many of you may have found a palpable sense of peace in the recent workers’ meeting, many of the rest of us felt the opposite. We felt despair that all of our efforts, our conversations, and our pleadings of the last year had all amounted to the ministry choosing to preserve their own power and authority above all else.
As time passed, it became evident that the ministry’s path was diverging from ours. We learned of the creation of ‘modified’ versions of our own work, and then of conversations of scriptural guidelines, and then a turn towards a minimalist set of guidelines. While our task and purpose was to create comprehensive protections, the continued passage of time revealed the ministry valued an approach much different than we had envisioned.
In the end, we realized that for the benefit of our community, particularly the families with children to protect, we needed to move forward and publish the guidelines. Maybe some of you have felt that we were being prideful, vindictive, or seeking conflict when you learned we were publishing our guidelines. This was not the case. In fact, our decision to do so was a prayerful and thoughtful leading in which we were all settled in peace. While this journey has been fraught with challenges, we remain hopeful that these guidelines will serve as a foundation for safety and trust within our fellowship.
Thank you for taking the time to read about this journey. We are sure that some of our feelings and experiences may mirror some of your own, as is often the case when two paths diverge. We are hopeful that we can find a way to align our efforts for the greater good of our community, and that, above all else, we feel and show an unending love for God. There is a deep sense of gratitude on our team that we were a part of this process. The fellowship we have experienced with each other and the friendships we have found along the way are encouraging and invaluable.
Warm regards,
The Guidelines Team
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