Breaking the Silence

Notification Letters (from workers to friends)

A collection of letters from overseers to the friends in various fields regarding child sexual abuse.

New in 2023: Overseers Dean Bruer and Mark Huddle were exposed as abusers. This was followed by a flood of other overseers, workers and friends being removed from  the ministry and attending meetings.

Letter from USA Friends to 43 Overseers and several Elders – August 2013

Letters from  friends and workers supporting stronger and more open action against CSA

List of Convicted CSA Offenders who have been associated with the fellowship of friends and workers

Some offenders have never been brought to justice but the following people have a public record of their conviction for CSA offences. They can receive forgiveness and pardon from their victims if and when the victim chooses to do so, and provided they have made full acknowledgement of their offences to all their victims and accepted any punishment from the judicial system.

Maintaining a public record of these offenders allows their contacts to ensure that separation from children is maintained to prevent any further offences.

Survivor Stories

Some stories of survivors of child sexual abuse that occurred within in the fellowship. These brave people have given permission for their stories to be published for the benefit of others.

Open Letters to WINGS

Some letters of endorsement for the work WINGS is doing.


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  1. To Overseers, Workers and Concerned People.
    Please feel free to copy and paste, and email on.
    Evil prospers when good people remain silent or neutral
    Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest.
    If you don’t stand up for something you’ll fall for anything..
    The Abuser’s have only, when confronted with Child Sex Abuse actions confessed. Not through remorse, regret or from a stricken conscience. They have carried on for years leaving a trail of damage, with multiple child victims.
    In order to escape accountability for their crimes, the perpetrator does everything in their power to promote forgetting.
    If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of the victim.
    If they cannot silence the victim absolutely, they try to make sure no one listens.
    To the Abuser: the sin is yours, the crime is yours, and the shame is yours.
    You should only enjoy restoration when you show the fruits of repentance. To do whatever it takes to make things right and to demonstrate you have changed.
    10 Ways to Show Your Repentant
    1. YOU name your sin as sin and do not spin it or excuse it. YOU demonstrate “godly sorrow,” which is to say, a grief chiefly about the sin itself, not just a grief about being caught or having to deal with the consequences of sin.
    2. If found out, YOU confess immediately or very soon after and “come clean,” rather than having to have the full truth pulled from you. Real repentance is typically accompanied by transparency.
    3. YOU have a willingness and eagerness to make amends. YOU will do whatever it takes to make things right and to demonstrate we have changed.
    4. YOU do not contact the victim. If they wish to meet its on their terms and YOU are patient with those you’ve hurt or victimized, spending as much time as is required listening to them without jumping to defend yourself. YOU don’t pressure them or “guilt” them into forgiving us.
    5. YOU are willing to confess your sin and reveal other victims even in the face of serious consequences (including undergoing church discipline or having to go to jail)
    6. YOU may grieve the consequences of your sin but you do not bristle under or resent the consequence. YOU understand that sometimes your sin causes great damage to others that is not healed in the short term or perhaps ever.
    7. If your sin involves addiction or a pattern of behavior, YOU do not neglect to seek help with a counselor, a solid program, or even a rehabilitation center.
    8. YOU don’t resent accountability, pastoral rebuke, or church discipline.
    9. YOU seek your comfort in the grace of God in Jesus Christ, not simply in being free of the consequences of our sin.
    10. YOU are humble and teachable.
    If you are sincere in repentance your life will show it.

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