About WINGS

WINGS has been created by victims/survivors who have suffered Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) within the fellowship of friends and workers, together with individuals who have been both directly and indirectly impacted by CSA, because we care about CSA and care about the fellowship.

Our objective is to provide information, support and guidance on every aspect of CSA and to support victims of CSA. Our ultimate hope is to encourage change within the fellowship in order to protect others from the devastation that occurs through CSA, especially when its impact is trivialized or ignored.

Through networking with other victims/survivors, we can be more effective agents for change. Through learning that our stories are not isolated, we can become less isolated emotionally which will have an exponential impact on our individual healing processes.

Abuse is made possible by secrecy and shame; healing can be made possible by the honesty, courage, pain and anger, which we can channel toward reaching the following goals:

  1. To support victims/survivors who were sexually abused within the fellowship.
  2. To encourage and support the establishment of “church” policies that effectively address the problem of CSA within the fellowship, the healing processes of members as well as victims/survivors and the proper handling of its perpetrators.
  3. Make it difficult for child sexual abuse perpetrators to operate within the Friends and Workers fellowship by educating members about prevention and protection.

WINGS is focused on the “Truth” fellowship for several reasons:

  1. CSA has occurred within the fellowship. We care about CSA and we care about the fellowship.
  2. The fellowship holds in common some unique doctrines and beliefs, often striving to be “different” and set apart.
  3. The fellowship has isolated itself from the larger community of Christianity which has resulted in a prevailing belief that the Friends and Workers fellowship is not susceptible to abuses plaguing other denominations.
  4. A typical response is that God will cleanse “His fellowship” in His own time and way and that secular law does not apply.
  5. The lack of effective administrative procedures for helping primary and secondary victims/survivors heal from abuse within the group.
  6. The silencing of victims/survivors who are too intimidated and traumatized to speak out publicly about the injustices that they have suffered at the hands of workers, elders and friends.

Ten Child-Saving Questions We Must Ask

  1. Have we considered what would happen if a child is abused in the fellowship?
  2. Are we fulfilling our responsibility before God to protect the children of our fellowship from harm?
  3. Do we understand the legal grounds for reporting abuse?
  4. Do we understand the benefits of educating ourselves on all matters of child abuse, so as to help prevent it and know how to respond appropriately?
  5. How should we identify and report incidents of sexual abuse?
  6. How should we respond to incidents of sexual abuse?
  7. Are we acting like our fellowship is immune to child sexual abuse?
  8. How many times must a perpetrator hurt a child before he/she is reported to authorities?
  9. Should child abusers be allowed to freely remain on convention grounds and sleep in the same dormitories?
  10. How many more children have to be hurt before an action plan is put in place and followed to deal with the abusers legally and morally?

10 thoughts on “About WINGS

  1. Thank you kindly for all the support and love set forth to create change. Awareness is our greatest defense. Your voice is kind and knowledgeable. We need more to step forward and speak their truth. I’m an incest survivor! Overcomes through God’s help and tremendous amounts of counseling. If I can help in any way please let me know. I’ve had decades of counseling and am a registered nurse. I am in the fellowship and it grieve my heart the prevalence of CSA. It’s a lot of work to overcome but it is possible with God’s help.

    • Thank you so much. Both for sharing your story and for your encouragement to others (It is a lot to overcome but it is possible with God’s help.)

      100% standing with you all the way!
      🥰

  2. 11. Have we paid compensation to survivors & victims?

    12. Have we undermined & further harmed survivors & victims in the past & so we owe them an apology?

    13. Are we a registered church, declaring donations, auditable practices, employee records?

  3. I was just removed from C&C for posting a quote that would be considered hate speech and violent. I just asked the
    question is this the spirit you want promoted here? Then posted the members quote, within seconds I was removed. I know you are affiliated w/ C&C and other sites so is this how it works? Cancel anyone that has a question reveal a totally inappropriate statement. You all aren’t sincerely out to help the victims but to undermine those who don’t agree with tour ‘mainstream media’ Here is what I wrote with sincerity: Its verbatim.

    Is this the spirit you are promoting here?

    Michael Fords recent post:
    “I don’t know much, but as I understand it each of the original crimes are horrific enough I’d have zero hesitation and zero regrets using lethal force to stop just one of the abuses.”

    For those who may not understand the term lethal:

    Lethal:
    adjective
    * of, relating to, or causing death; deadly; fatal:

  4. when there a some workers or Friends who did wrong things. Very wrong. Doesn’t mean that all workers etc are like that of course.

    we are alone for God 1 day.

    Let us life honest for Him.

    I hope those who were wrong find forgiveness…

    after real feelings of sorry.

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